2015 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 33,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 12 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

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How to Curb Your Obsessions

 

 

There may be something that you’re obsessed about, like food, a person, or a television show. We sometimes think that obsession is something that you see happening in the movies, but it is very much a reality. For me, I used to be addicted to watching soap operas. I remember my grandmother watching them when I was a kid. Many of them are off the air now, but there are a few that still air during the day like “The Young and the Restless” and the “The Bold and the Beautiful”. I stopped watching the latter a few years ago because the plot just got “old”…everybody sleeping around with the same people. I recently stopped watching “The Young and the Restless”. Since I started back working, I obviously couldn’t watch it during the day. With my unpredictable work schedule, I didn’t have to time to watch my DVR recordings. So, I erased all of them and just decided that I need to stop watching it period. People are still sleeping around, committing adultery, and taking bribes. These are not things that I need to poison my mind with. Temptations come around each day. Why add to it?

Too much television isn’t good for anybody. Specialists tell us not to let our 3-year old son watch television because he has a speech delay. He needs us to talk TO him. He needs to hear live speech. Every now and then I may watch movies, but for the most part, I spend my free time reading, journaling, blogging, and catching up on sleep. I also want to get back to racquetball since it does relieve stress.

Another obsession that I had was Candy Crush. Once you started playing and winning, it was hard to stop. The majority of us own tablets and smart phones with access to thousands of game apps. Or we play them on social media, which is also accessible on our mobile devices.

How do we curb our obsessions? If you have a job/career that keeps you busy, that definitely helps. When you’re not working, exercise, take walks, or play games or sports. If you enjoy reading, read an actual book. Reading on my IPad makes my eyes tired. I know that I’m old school, but I still read books…I even go to the library sometimes. It’s free…you can’t go wrong with a free book. (Just make sure that you bring it back by the due date).

My goal is to blog more. It is my passion. Any hobbies or passions that you have, I encourage you to pursue them. Take time to “cleanse” yourself. Rid yourself from the “poison” that television can produce. We want our kids to be their best. We should strive for that as well.

Confession Does Not Mean Healing

Many of us feel that if we make a confession that our problems are solved.  We go on Facebook or Twitter and talk about the horrible day that we’re having, the person that wronged us, or how we don’t need a man.  We put ourselves out there not just to a few people, but for everyone to see.  Misspelled words, profanity, and all.  We feel a sense of release, but is it really?

This is absolutely not the way to do it .  When you use social media to express your feelings, you really need to be mindful of who may be reading it…family, friends, potential employers, or business partners.  When I read some posts, I’ll think, “Really?  Are your serious?  You actually wrote that on your page?”.

If you really want to start the healing process from whatever issue that you’re dealing with, I would first pray about it and talk to a GOOD friend or a counselor.  I emphasize GOOD because everybody can’t handle confessions or secrets.  Some of us shock easily. Also, a GOOD friend knows you the best, won’t be judgmental, and can always be counted on to give great advice.  (I can honestly say that I’ve heard it all, and with everything going on these days, nothing would surprise or shock me about anyone).

On the other hand, many of us are “anonymous” with our issues.  We think that if only God knows (or if nobody knows), then we’re good to go.  However, this past Sunday, I learned that we need to tell somebody else about our issue, whether it’s an addiction, bitterness, or loneliness; God can speak to us through that person.  His plan is for us to reach out to one another so that we can begin to heal.  To be honest, your secrets are never anonymous.  Somebody will figure it out.  They are just waiting for you to tell them about it.

So whatever your issue may be, don’t keep it bottled up inside.  On the other hand, don’t broadcast it all over social media, either.  You don’t need to tell everybody.  Find a person that you love and trust to confide in, or tell  a counselor. ( A counselor can only disclose information if they think that you may harm yourself or somebody else). Whoever you decide to have a heart to heart with, I wish you the best as you begin the healing process.