Stop Blocking Your Own Progress

Sometimes, we tend to blame others for our failures, whether it’s in our careers or personal life. In some cases, we have a right to do so depending on the circumstances. However, sometimes we have all of the tools available to succeed, but we don’t have any follow-through. The only person that you can blame is yourself.  Typically, we:

  1. Lack motivation. There are times when we become lazy. We want something, but we are not willing to put in the time and effort to get it.   One suggestion is to find a friend or mentor that can motivate you. Sometimes that one phone call or meeting can give you that “push” that you need to succeed.
  2. Speak “gloom and doom” into our lives. Words are very powerful. Look at everything from a positive standpoint. It’s okay to fail. You tried and failed; you need to try another strategy that works for you.
  3. Don’t like to make changes. Change is hard for many of us, but your situation won’t improve if you are stagnant.
  4. Go backwards in progress. Many of us manage to move forward and accomplish our goals; then we regress and fall back into old patterns that were unsuccessful.
  5. Let our fears get the best of us. We are afraid of the unknown. We want to start our own business. We want to write that book. Whatever your dream is, you’re afraid of failure. I always think about Mary Kay Ash. What would have happened if she had let her fears stop her from starting her dream company? If you don’t take a chance, you will always have regrets.
  6. Don’t use our talents and other resources. There are those of us that have various gifts and talents such as writing, singing, public speaking, money management, and design. Unlock those gifts. You can have a real impact on the lives of others.

I hope this information is encouraging. Envision where you see yourself in 6 months. Write down your goals and place the list in plain sight, like your bathroom mirror or refrigerator. When you achieve a goal, cross it out. Don’t forget that when you work hard, you can play hard.

Things Do Get Better With Age

I don’t know about you, but I am having a great summer. We’ve had two family outings and I was able to go to the Bahamas to celebrate my 40th birthday. I know that women don’t typically tell their age, but I see it as a blessing. Oftentimes at 40, we become depressed because we don’t feel that we’ve accomplished our goals. We thought that we’d be further in our careers, be married with children, or have more money and less debt.

When I think about my life, I don’t have any regrets. Sure, I’ve made many mistakes, but I’ve learned from them. My prayer is that I don’t make the same mistakes over again. The past eight years haven’t been the most stable career wise, but being a mom is the best job in the world. My son has come a long way from the 1 lb. 10 oz. preemie in the NICU. My marriage seems to get better with each passing year. Until I met my husband, I didn’t meet “nice” guys. They were looking for somebody to take care of them.

Most importantly, I feel good. I make sure that I get some rest and exercise. I also make sure that I eat some type of raw vegetables each day. When I look in the mirror, I feel good about myself. I don’t have a perfect body, but who does? The images that we see on television aren’t necessary the real thing thanks to implants and plastic surgery. I know what I want from life and what I cannot tolerate. I’ve had some of the same friendships for the last 15 to 20 years. Others, I have ended. No regrets. Some people are just toxic and immature.

Looking forward, I want to be an inspiration to others. Don’t use your age as an excuse. As the saying goes, age is just a number. Pray for wisdom and discernment. Things will become clearer to you.