Sometimes, we tend to blame others for our failures, whether it’s in our careers or personal life. In some cases, we have a right to do so depending on the circumstances. However, sometimes we have all of the tools available to succeed, but we don’t have any follow-through. The only person that you can blame is yourself. Typically, we:
- Lack motivation. There are times when we become lazy. We want something, but we are not willing to put in the time and effort to get it. One suggestion is to find a friend or mentor that can motivate you. Sometimes that one phone call or meeting can give you that “push” that you need to succeed.
- Speak “gloom and doom” into our lives. Words are very powerful. Look at everything from a positive standpoint. It’s okay to fail. You tried and failed; you need to try another strategy that works for you.
- Don’t like to make changes. Change is hard for many of us, but your situation won’t improve if you are stagnant.
- Go backwards in progress. Many of us manage to move forward and accomplish our goals; then we regress and fall back into old patterns that were unsuccessful.
- Let our fears get the best of us. We are afraid of the unknown. We want to start our own business. We want to write that book. Whatever your dream is, you’re afraid of failure. I always think about Mary Kay Ash. What would have happened if she had let her fears stop her from starting her dream company? If you don’t take a chance, you will always have regrets.
- Don’t use our talents and other resources. There are those of us that have various gifts and talents such as writing, singing, public speaking, money management, and design. Unlock those gifts. You can have a real impact on the lives of others.
I hope this information is encouraging. Envision where you see yourself in 6 months. Write down your goals and place the list in plain sight, like your bathroom mirror or refrigerator. When you achieve a goal, cross it out. Don’t forget that when you work hard, you can play hard.
This past Saturday, I attended Women’s Bible Study at my church. We had taken a break for the summer. I was looking forward to it all month. The topic was “Ready, Set, Grow”. In order for us to grow, we must first use Jesus as a model. It must be intentional; we have to be willing to change something about ourselves in order to see growth. If we don’t, we’ll still be in the same position unfulfilled.
This was an awesome study, but what I enjoyed the most about it was table talk. We divided into small groups, and we discussed ways that each of us wanted to grow. A common theme with our group was improving our health, making lifestyle changes, and using our unemployment as an opportunity to do the things that we’re passionate about. I’m passionate about writing. When I write, I need intellectual stimulation. To move to the next level, I need to step out of my comfort zone. Little did I know that the opportunity was at that moment. Since I want to develop my writing gift, I was designated as the note taker for the group. Being the note taker also made me the spokesperson. I had to get “comfortable with being uncomfortable” when it was time to present.
The words came as I read my notes. I was actually talking in front of a group of about 50 women! It felt great! I’m not a public speaker, but a lot of people thought that I did a great job. Some of the women I knew while others I was meeting for the first time. Even at church service the next day, some women were still talking about it. I was definitely encouraged. If I ever have another opportunity to lead or speak in front of a group, I won’t refuse it. I’m sure that with time and practice, I’ll improve.
I know now that I need to make every effort to use my writing gift. Even if I fail, I at least tried. If you don’t, you’ll always wonder if you could have succeeded…….if you could have helped someone else reach their goals or given them encouragement. Even in this crazy economy, don’t be afraid to follow your dreams or use your talents. If you help one person, you’ve done a service. Whatever the case, don’t let fear keep you from achieving your goals.