5 Reasons Why I Blog

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There are many types of blogs out there. Some discuss Kim Kardashian’s backside or Pitbull’s latest video. Others talk about sports or give financial advice. I’ve been blogging for about a year and half now. Here are my reasons:

  1. My family. At the end of 2012, my contract position ended. At that time, I was a Scientist at a large medical devices company. Also, when my son turned 2, he began to have behavioral issues; he would have “meltdowns” if his routine changed. He had been receiving occupational and physical therapy since he was 6 months old.   His pediatrician recommended it since he was a preemie. I decided to return to being a stay-at-home mom until my son’s issues were resolved. Last summer, doctors diagnosed my son with autism spectrum disorder. I wasn’t familiar with it, and quite frankly, it was hard for me to accept. In between my son’s at-home therapy sessions and visits to specialists, I needed something else to relax my mind. I enjoyed writing, and I’d heard about blogging, so I decided to research it further. It was easy to set up a website on WordPress, and friends were always asking me for advice; I decided to launch Have Faith and Live Well.
  2. To inform. I  discuss various health topics in my blog. Since my son’s diagnosis, I began researching the types of foods that he should eat and those to avoid. Fortunately, my son is a very picky eater. As a family, we don’t eat fast food or drink soda among other things. It costs more to eat healthy, but it’s worth it. I know that at least one person is reading my blog daily. I hope that they are taking the initiative to do their own research and make the necessary changes. I believe that by helping one person, that person can help others and so forth.
  3. For exposure. It takes time to build a strong following. (Of course, there are those exceptional bloggers that have millions of followers). It will be that one blog post, one connection, or that one application that will make all the difference. Guest blogging is also helpful for exposure. I’ve posted on other blogs as well as having guest bloggers on my own blog.
  4. To network with other bloggers. There are many blogs that I follow. Some of them I read for entertainment, and others give great blogging tips. I learn a wealth of information from other bloggers. It’s an ongoing process. People come into our lives for different reasons. I don’t believe in coincidences.
  5. For income. The goal is to generate income from my blog, which is a work in progress.

I would like to thank all of you that take the time to read my blog posts. You are the reason that I continue to write.


10 Ways for Stay-at-home Moms to Relax and De-stress

It has its rewards; however, things can be overwhelming sometimes for a stay-at-home mom. Are you always doing things for others with little or no time left for yourself? Here are some ways to relax and de-stress:

  1. Tell others when you feel overwhelmed. They may not like what you have to say, but it is better to express how you feel. You don’t want to hold your feelings in and lash out at a later time. Calmly express your feelings. It’s always nice to HEAR that you’re appreciated for all that you do.
  2. Pamper yourself. Go get a massage, manicure, or pedicure. Go to the beauty salon. If you don’t want to go to the spa, there are things you can do at home. For instance, you can take a long bubble bath, light some scented candles, or give yourself a facial. When you look good, you feel good.
  3. Exercise.  Physical activity relieves stress and burns calories.
  4. Take time to see friends. I typically get together with friends at least once a month for dinner or other activity. It gives us a chance to talk and catch up.
  5. Accept those invites. If you get invited to a party or event, go if you don’t have other plans.  It’s a privilege to be included.
  6. Go shopping. This is always fun for those that enjoy it. Macy’s, Victoria’s Secret, and DSW Shoes always send me coupons.
  7. Have daily quiet time. I either do it first thing in the morning or in the evening. Sometimes I do it twice daily. This is the time that I use to brainstorm, pray, write in my journal, and do meditation.
  8. Have date nights. When you can get a babysitter, plan a night out for two. Dinner and a movie always work well. If you both enjoy sports, plan to go to a game.
  9. Plan a getaway. Sometimes you just need a change in scenery. If you’re fortunate enough to a vacation each year, do it. There are so many beautiful places to see, within the U.S. as well as internationally. Life is shorter than you think.
  10. Get a hobby. Find an activity that you’re passionate about. Your hobby could later become a source of income.

When your kids are in school, that gives you time to run errands and relax for a while. If your kids take naps, use that time to catch up on sleep. I rarely have the opportunity to sleep past 6:30am. I’m usually the first to get up most days. Even though I only have one child, he keeps me busy. I treasure our time together. He’s growing up.

How to Resist Temptation

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A big part of resisting temptation is having self-control. It doesn’t matter if you’re married or single. You don’t have to give in to your urges or lusts. Just like if you see a beautiful buffet of food doesn’t mean that you have to sample everything. There are always consequences when you do. It may not be immediate, but believe me, there will be some. Here are some ways to do that:

1. There is always somebody that can relate to you. Always know that there are many other people going through a similar situation. It’s not just you.

2. Seek wise counsel. You don’t want to get advice from a friend that would suggest cheating on your spouse or just doing what you feel. Unfortunately, that what society tells you. Doing what you want and feel will get you into trouble. If you don’t have anyone that you’re comfortable confiding in, you can always talk to a counselor. They aren’t biased or judgmental. Sometimes our friends and family can be very judgmental or cannot relate to our plight. For a matter this serious, be careful who you confide in.

3. Avoid that irresistible person or thing. . The best way to avoid temptation is to not put yourself in that situation. You don’t want to spend too much time around an attractive person of the opposite sex that you enjoy talking to. That can lead to lunches, dinners, and “cardiovascular activities”. Once you cross that line, there’s no coming back from it.

4. Think about the worst case scenario if you crossed the line. Losing your family, home, and trust from the people that care about you can be a result of your infidelity. God can bring you back from anything, but I wouldn’t want to hit rock bottom. Don’t put your family at risk for a meaningless fling.

5. Think about how wonderful your spouse is. If you need to, list 10 things that you love most about your spouse. Think about about how smart, sexy, and talented they are. Every time that other person comes to mind, think of that list.

Remember, the real thing is never as good as the fantasy. You may find out something really disturbing about that person. They may be fine, but they may also be crazy on top of that. Some people that appear to be so self-confident may in fact be very insecure. You already know what you’re getting with your spouse. They love you for who you are, including your flaws. You’ve invested so much into your marriage over the years. When you feel a weak moment coming on, pray about it. Again, the key is self-control. You’ll thank me later.

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Be an Example of Dignity to Your Child By Paul Smith

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Sometimes I wonder:  How can one abuse a child? Little creatures that came into this world to make you happy, bring you joy, and be the sense of your life. The greatest happiness is when that little angel winds his little hands around your neck and screams that he loves you.

What on earth can make you do any harm to this angel??? Why are some people so cruel to those whom they gave this life? Why are there so many cases of child abuse in families?

It is a known fact that all children absorb all of the information given to them just like a sponge. Parents’ attitude towards them and their behavior are marked in their sub consciousness. From an early age, children experience different punishments; even for the little prank, they are beaten or shouted at. Psychologists will say that this is wrong, as the physical punishment is much more hazardous than emotional effect.

My parents never beat me; my father has always been and still is an example of dignity for me. The worst punishment of his to me, even now, is when he elevates his voice on me. It doesn’t happen that often, but it means he is really angry with me; there has never been any physical violence from his side. What I want to say is that instead of giving a spank to your child every time he does something in the wrong way, you need to tell him why he is wrong; give him a reason that he should not act in such a way again. It will work, and in the eyes of your child, you will remain a strict, but a loving and caring parent.

20131128-150101.jpgChild abuse is fairly prevalent in dysfunctional families, where the violence against children is quite a common thing nowadays. Parents often use this kind of punishment, as they think that children should be absolutely obedient to them, and this is a great mistake from their side. Corporal punishment of children leads to degradation of a child’s individuality. A child can understand that the spanking is something that goes without saying, and he does not have a feeling of guilt. It prevents the development of his full awareness of himself as individuality. The corporal punishments go from generation to generation, and it cannot be excluded that the child will treat his own children in the same way that his parents treated him.  The child thinks that such a behavior is a right one and will take it for granted in the future.

Usually, child abuse takes place in families where parents just can’t bring their children up correctly.  It is absurd to me when I see a mother shouting at her young child just because he has soiled his clothes or made some disorder in the room. It is a child! What did you expect from him? That he would go and clean after himself and wash the clothes? I am getting furious when young moms are happy to have any opportunity to punish her child.

I hope that in the future we will have a better situation with all of the child abuse cases, as these little angels are not guilty that they were born. You wanted a child? Then, please, do your best to make his childhood the best one and treat him as the gift from God that he really is.

About the author: Paul Smith is a big family man. He enjoys traveling, meeting new people, and in his spare time he creates guest posts on various topics. Contact Paul at  http://essaywritingservice-reviews.com, http://plus.google.com/u/0/109013041940492187102?rel=author

Love Those Family Walks

Since the weather has been exceptionally beautiful lately, we’ve been taking family walks in the evening after dinner.  We burned off calories and enjoyed some fresh air.  I thought that my 2-yr. old would get tired, but he didn’t.  Of course, the dog always enjoys taking walks with us.  

As we walked this week, I felt so thankful for my beautiful family that I love dearly.  When I was single, this was all that I wanted.  I had a career and my own home, but I was missing the family part.  Now that I have it, I don’t want to lose it.  Appreciate those simple things in life.  Enjoy nature.  Walking is also great for stress relief.  There’s nothing wrong with walking alone sometimes, too.  That quiet time alone really gives you a chance to think and reflect on life.

Finding A Mate

A lot of single women ask me my opinion about finding a mate.  There are a lot of single women, whether divorced, separated, or never been married, that would like to have a great guy in their life.  The first thing that I tell them is to know what you want.  I made a list as a matter of fact when I was single.  I remember a godly man with intelligence and a sense of humor topped the list.  I must say that he exceeded my expectations.  Sure, no man is perfect, but neither are we. If you’re divorced, don’t blame yourself.  Learn and grow from the experience.

We can sometimes overlook a good man because we are so wrapped up in the physical.  No, I’m not saying that you should date a troll, but  give a guy a chance if he’s a little chubby or a little shorter than you.  Especially if you have a lot in common.  I’ve met many men that are sexy, but they are very flawed in other areas.  Sexy doesn’t pay the bills.  Sexy won’t matter if he’s cheating on you or taking his frustrations out on your face.  I tell women as long as you find him attractive, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks.

It’s wonderful to have a man that is also your friend.  You can talk for hours when you’re together, no matter how deep the conversation.  You should have similar religious views, values, and the same attitude about family. If you want to have kids, you don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want them.  Also, if your man wants you to be a stay-at-home mother, but you want to have a career, those are vast differences.  If you’re having major issues before you get married, they’re only going to get worse.  Also, you want a man to be supportive.  He shouldn’t bad-mouth you behind your back or embarrass you in public. You should be respectful of him as well.  Marriage is a team effort.

Lastly, when you finally meet that special man, make the marriage work.  Remember that you take vows before God.  When problems arise, communication is very important.  Don’t be selfish and beware of the many temptations that are out there.  (That’s another discussion).