Tips for Dating After 35

My single and divorced friends will often call me for dating advice. It’s comforting when they actually listen to it. Some will ask for my advice and then do the opposite thing. Then they come back sad and disappointed. Dating doesn’t get any easier when you’re 35 and older, but you can still be successful. Here are some tips:

  1. There are still good men out there. Some women say that they are by themselves because men today don’t have anything to offer. That may be true to a certain extent, but it works both ways. What do you have to offer? How picky can you be when you’re unemployed, living with your parents, and don’t own your own car? Think about it. You may be hurt by what I’ve said, but you have to consider those things. You may be looking for a lawyer, but that “good man” may be a bus driver taking college courses in political science. You never know.
  2. Pray about it. God knows all of our wants and our needs. Talk to Him about it. There are many biblical references for this (i.e. I Thessalonians 5:17; Psalm 37:4; Philippines 4:6).
  3. Stop obsessing about your ex. You may feel that you invested a lot of time in that relationship, but he did as well. Your ex had moved on with someone new, so you should do the same. That is the reason that they are called “exes”. You forgive them and move on. Don’t keep allowing them to hurt you over and over again. That obsession will take control of your life, and you will not be able to move forward.
  4. Don’t just focus on one guy. If you’re divorced and ready to start dating again, don’t just focus on one guy. You may find him attractive, but you don’t know anything about him. In 2014, a man can be gay, straight, bisexual, or transsexual. Unless he’s up front about it, it’s not good to assume until you get to know him. Get to know one another and see what things that you have in common. If it doesn’t lead to a relationship, you’ll at least have a friendship. This isn’t about sex; the more men that you meet, the better your chances of finding one that you’re compatible with.
  5. Continue to live life to the fullest. Don’t put all of your focus on dating. Typically, if you’re involved in outside activities and causes that you are passionate about, chances are that you’re meeting people with similar interests.
  6. Stop thinking that nobody is “good enough”. It so easy for you to believe that now that you have a successful career, a fantastic house, the car, and the beauty that no man can meet your standards. Whether or not you want to admit it, you need that companionship. You get tired of coming home to an empty house. I’ve heard so many stories of women that always talk about how many men are pursuing them; yet they are not interested in any of them.   Stop faking. Just like you, every man is going to have his flaws in addition to his outstanding characteristics. It’s all about what you can live with.


I hope that these tips are helpful. Some of you may not like what I had to say, but these are the things that I’ve noticed and believe should be said. Remember to stay positive. Marriage can work if two people are compatible.

Is A Smile Key To A Lasting Relationship? By Richard Buckley


Surveys on dating websites consistently show that most people value a nice smile as the most attractive physical feature in a partner, but is a smile really the key to a lasting relationship? What can you do to improve the look of your smile?

The importance of your smile

When you see somebody that you know, hear good news, or if you are feeling happy, the first thing you do is to smile. Your smile is the single most important means of communicating with other people. It can help to build relationships, create positive first impressions, and encourage others to feel happy or reassured. If you have a nice smile and you’re not afraid to use it, this enables you to show your personality. You can make others feel at ease in your company and convey your confidence. Past research suggests six out of ten people in long-term relationships consider oral health maintenance more important than other hygiene misdemeanors.

Smiling is important in a relationship because it shows that you are happy in somebody else’s company, and you are open to showing your emotions. Your smile can also show confidence and warmth.

Smiling on the dating scene

Dating is a subject of great intrigue in modern society, as websites, agencies and dating apps have made dating much more commonplace than it used to be. When you go on a date, it’s normal to feel nervous and a little anxious. If you are greeted with a warm smile, this instantly makes you feel better. It’s also important to portray the right impression, as research shows that you make up your mind about somebody in just a few seconds after meeting them.

Smiling is often a barometer of confidence, one of the most attractive characteristics in a partner. If you smile, this creates a positive ambience; however, if you are reticent to smile because you don’t like your teeth or you feel very shy or nervous, this can make dating awkward. You may find it hard to show your true personality. Smiling is synonymous with being friendly, warm and compassionate. If you shy away from smiling, this can make you seem distant and uninterested, even if you are not like that at all.

What can I do to improve my smile?

Many people are not blessed with perfect teeth, but the good news is that there are many treatments out there that can help to improve the look of your smile. You don’t need to spend a fortune or lie for hours in the dental chair to enjoy a great smile. There are simple and quick treatments available, and even making small changes to your diet and oral hygiene regime can make a big difference.

There is a host of exciting and innovative cosmetic dental treatments available today, including porcelain veneers, tooth whitening and cosmetic bonding. The latter is a treatment used to repair chipped and worn teeth, which takes less than an hour and is completely painless.

Seeing a dental hygienist can make a huge difference to the look of your smile; intensive cleaning treatments remove surface stains and give your teeth a lovely, healthy glow.

Many people suffer from orthodontic issues, and this is a common cause of problems associated with lacking confidence when you smile. If your teeth are crooked or crowded, it’s never too late to have treatment. There are so many options available now, from removable appliances, which work in less than 5 months ; there’s invisible aligners, to clear braces, and braces that are attached to the back of your teeth. For further information visit