The True Meaning of Halloween

As a kid, I thought that Halloween was a day set aside for us to have fun. A time that we can dress up as something or someone else, eat candy, and go to parties. Now that I’m older and know the origin of the day, it’s not something in which my family and I will participate in.

Do you ever wonder why you say “trick or treat!” when you visit a home on Halloween night? It relates to the rituals of the Druid Priests. They are evil people possessed by demons, and their sacrifical night is October 31, which is known as “All Hallows’ Eve”.  November 1 marks the Celtic new year or All Saints Day. The Druids believe that those sinful souls that had died that current year would be released from torment once Samhaim accepted their sacrifices.

Sure, kids have a blast now going door-to-door receiving “treats”. However, in Stonehenge, the Druids and their followers went from castle to castle demanding a treat, which would be either a princess or young woman.  She was brutally assaulted and sacrificed to Satan during a ceremony. The Druid music could always be heard in the background. This music can also be heard in some rock music today. The Druids would leave a lighted jack o’lantern in front of the castles that had given them a “treat” that pleased them. This protected those inside from being killed by demons that night. Have you ever wondered why you see carved pumpkins outside of people’s homes as you drive or walk by?

The “trick” was when you didn’t have a “sacrifice”. They would draw a hexagram (a six-pointed star) on the front door, allowing Satan or his demons to come in and kill those in the that home. Today, the “trick” would be a razor blade, drugs (i.e. marijuana), or some harmful object or poison placed inside the candy or “treat”.  Any child could potentially die.  Knowing this information, why would you want to celebrate Halloween, a celebration of evil?  Sure, there are so-called “alternatives” to Halloween, but why even do that?  What message are you sending?  I just wouldn’t celebrate it at all. Television and music influence our children in very subtle ways.  If you pay attention, you’ll notice a lot of symbolism in movies and music videos.  It is important to guard our children against things that could potentially harm them.  Always do your research.  It’s amazing what you can find on YouTube.

Fortunately, my son’s school is closed on Halloween.  Yesterday, I told his teacher that we do not celebrate Halloween nor did we send a costume to school with him. Fortunately, my son does not eat candy, anyway.   In class  today, they talked about pumpkins as fruit, which is fine. Their class went on a field trip to Clark’s Elioak Farm yesterday, and each child picked out their own pumpkin. My son is still too young to understand certain holidays, but when he gets older, we will explain the meaning behind each one.

10 Ways for Stay-at-home Moms to Relax and De-stress

It has its rewards; however, things can be overwhelming sometimes for a stay-at-home mom. Are you always doing things for others with little or no time left for yourself? Here are some ways to relax and de-stress:

  1. Tell others when you feel overwhelmed. They may not like what you have to say, but it is better to express how you feel. You don’t want to hold your feelings in and lash out at a later time. Calmly express your feelings. It’s always nice to HEAR that you’re appreciated for all that you do.
  2. Pamper yourself. Go get a massage, manicure, or pedicure. Go to the beauty salon. If you don’t want to go to the spa, there are things you can do at home. For instance, you can take a long bubble bath, light some scented candles, or give yourself a facial. When you look good, you feel good.
  3. Exercise.  Physical activity relieves stress and burns calories.
  4. Take time to see friends. I typically get together with friends at least once a month for dinner or other activity. It gives us a chance to talk and catch up.
  5. Accept those invites. If you get invited to a party or event, go if you don’t have other plans.  It’s a privilege to be included.
  6. Go shopping. This is always fun for those that enjoy it. Macy’s, Victoria’s Secret, and DSW Shoes always send me coupons.
  7. Have daily quiet time. I either do it first thing in the morning or in the evening. Sometimes I do it twice daily. This is the time that I use to brainstorm, pray, write in my journal, and do meditation.
  8. Have date nights. When you can get a babysitter, plan a night out for two. Dinner and a movie always work well. If you both enjoy sports, plan to go to a game.
  9. Plan a getaway. Sometimes you just need a change in scenery. If you’re fortunate enough to a vacation each year, do it. There are so many beautiful places to see, within the U.S. as well as internationally. Life is shorter than you think.
  10. Get a hobby. Find an activity that you’re passionate about. Your hobby could later become a source of income.

When your kids are in school, that gives you time to run errands and relax for a while. If your kids take naps, use that time to catch up on sleep. I rarely have the opportunity to sleep past 6:30am. I’m usually the first to get up most days. Even though I only have one child, he keeps me busy. I treasure our time together. He’s growing up.

5 Ways to Keep Your Children Healthy and Happy

I communicate with my son’s teacher frequently.  I dress him appropriately according to the school activity.  For instance, on the days that the students have art and cooking, I will dress him in one of his older outfits.  On the days that he has occupational therapy, he needs comfortable, loose-fitting clothes. His teacher commented on how well-dressed that we keep our son. I personally don’t like seeing well-dressed parents with unkempt children.  Children with uncombed hair, runny noses, dirty faces and clothes…not cool.  If anything, the parents should be willing to sacrifice so that their children can look nice. It doesn’t take much effort, only a willing spirit.  Now that school is back in session, here are some ways to keep your kids healthy and up to speed.

  1. Get all required immunizations.  Depending on their ages, children are required to have certain shots before returning to school. Check with your child’s pediatrician and /or school.
  2. Make sure that they are wearing the correct shoe and clothing sizes.  Kids go through growth spurts.  It’s especially important that they wear the correct shoe size.  They will avoid foot pain and problems later in life.  It doesn’t matter if the shoes cost $20 or $50.  I remember my mother taking me to Stride Rite because my feet were so narrow.  I wore patent leather Mary Janes (the shoes with the straps across the instep) for most of my childhood.  Ironically, I take my son to Stride Rite because his feet are wide.
  3. Keep vitamins and allergy medications on hand.  It may not be a bad idea to give your children a multivitamin for preventive maintenance.  Last school year, my son had a stomach virus that lasted almost a week, and he caught ringworm a few months later.  To treat ringworm in the hair, you have to take a pill for almost a month and follow-up with the doctor.  (I know that this doesn’t even scratch the surface when you think about the various illnesses.) Since he’s been taking this current allergy medication, he doesn’t suffer from seasonal allergies like before.
  4. Have a consistent bedtime.  My son’s bedtime is 8:00 pm regardless of whether it’s a school night.
  5. Keep your children active.  If you allow your children to watch television, put limitations on it. We turn the television off while my son eats because he appears mesmerized by certain commercials. Is it just a coincidence? I believe that it is deliberate.  Ever wonder why they call the television set an idiot box?  Do you know why more children are obese now?  Children, particularly those with special needs, need time outside for gross motor breaks and exercise movement time.  When they’re not in school, they need to be involved in positive activity.

Although being a parent can be exhausting sometimes, your children are gifts.  Treasure your time with them.



Be an Example of Dignity to Your Child By Paul Smith


Sometimes I wonder:  How can one abuse a child? Little creatures that came into this world to make you happy, bring you joy, and be the sense of your life. The greatest happiness is when that little angel winds his little hands around your neck and screams that he loves you.

What on earth can make you do any harm to this angel??? Why are some people so cruel to those whom they gave this life? Why are there so many cases of child abuse in families?

It is a known fact that all children absorb all of the information given to them just like a sponge. Parents’ attitude towards them and their behavior are marked in their sub consciousness. From an early age, children experience different punishments; even for the little prank, they are beaten or shouted at. Psychologists will say that this is wrong, as the physical punishment is much more hazardous than emotional effect.

My parents never beat me; my father has always been and still is an example of dignity for me. The worst punishment of his to me, even now, is when he elevates his voice on me. It doesn’t happen that often, but it means he is really angry with me; there has never been any physical violence from his side. What I want to say is that instead of giving a spank to your child every time he does something in the wrong way, you need to tell him why he is wrong; give him a reason that he should not act in such a way again. It will work, and in the eyes of your child, you will remain a strict, but a loving and caring parent.

20131128-150101.jpgChild abuse is fairly prevalent in dysfunctional families, where the violence against children is quite a common thing nowadays. Parents often use this kind of punishment, as they think that children should be absolutely obedient to them, and this is a great mistake from their side. Corporal punishment of children leads to degradation of a child’s individuality. A child can understand that the spanking is something that goes without saying, and he does not have a feeling of guilt. It prevents the development of his full awareness of himself as individuality. The corporal punishments go from generation to generation, and it cannot be excluded that the child will treat his own children in the same way that his parents treated him.  The child thinks that such a behavior is a right one and will take it for granted in the future.

Usually, child abuse takes place in families where parents just can’t bring their children up correctly.  It is absurd to me when I see a mother shouting at her young child just because he has soiled his clothes or made some disorder in the room. It is a child! What did you expect from him? That he would go and clean after himself and wash the clothes? I am getting furious when young moms are happy to have any opportunity to punish her child.

I hope that in the future we will have a better situation with all of the child abuse cases, as these little angels are not guilty that they were born. You wanted a child? Then, please, do your best to make his childhood the best one and treat him as the gift from God that he really is.

About the author: Paul Smith is a big family man. He enjoys traveling, meeting new people, and in his spare time he creates guest posts on various topics. Contact Paul at,