5 Ways to Cope With Job Loss

One month ago, I was laid off from my job. It wasn’t because of poor performance.  In fact, my peers always told me about the fine work that I did.  They expressed their compassion as well as their surprise. I was the only person in my department that was affected by this business decision.

My previous company decided to downsize.  As a result, a few of us were told that our positions would be eliminated.  I wasn’t totally surprised during my two and a half years of service; I’ve seen many of my peers, including two managers, get fired.  The company downsized at the beginning of this year as well. In addition, the company had a lot of turnover  that always seem to happen in waves.

Am I bitter about losing my job?  Absolutely not.  I believe that was the expectation from the management and my peers.  Many people don’t handle a job loss well.   I’ve experienced it before.  As a spiritual woman, I believe that everything happens for a reason.  Sometimes, it’s to protect us from more harm. Other times, it’s to make us stronger to prepare us for the events to come.

During this past month, I’ve used this time to pray and think about the next steps.  I’ve enjoyed spending more time with my husband and son.  I watch my son get on his school bus, and I see him when he comes home. I help him with his spelling, reading, and math.  When I was working, my husband did all of those things.  As far as the job search goes, I worked with a resume coach to revise my resume.  I’m working with a career coach and learning more about using LinkedIn.  I’ve enjoyed working with both of them.

I’ve always been told that you are not alone; there is always someone going through the same issues.  I hope that I can encourage those that recently lost their job or maybe have been unemployed for a long period of time.  Perhaps, you may have advice for me. This is what I will tell you:

1. Move forward and put the past behind you.  I know this is not always easy, but it’s very important that you do this.  When you’re interviewing, you don’t want to say negative things about your previous company.

2. Use your time off to your benefit.  As a mentioned, I’ve enjoyed time with my family.  I’ve also had time to write blog posts. If you’re not in a “desperate” situation, use this time to relax and plan your next step.

3.  Networking.  LinkedIn is a great place to start.  One referral, ironically from a previous manager, led to a phone interview followed by an on-site interview. Applying for jobs online at sites like Indeed can work.  ( I have been invited for interviews).  It’s always wise to be creative with your job search.

4. Turn your talents into earnings.  We all know at least one person with a legal “hustle”, whether it’s hair styling, coaching, cooking, graphic design, fashion, or singing.  I’m still working on this.  I recently connected with a former co-worker that became an entrepreneur.  She had been preparing for the transition all year.

5. Count every experience as a life lesson.  I took away some valuable experiences from my last position. There were days that I felt appreciated; there were other days that I felt like less than a person.  In any case, I had an opportunity to gain leadership skills and develop my public speaking skills.

Please feel free to share your job search experiences and advice that has helped in your development.

Hello Readers, I’m Back

Hi There!

I know that it’s been months since I posted my last update. I have been busy with work and family. Yes, I am still working on my fitness and health. I admit that I have been on a roller coaster with the weight loss. Once I lost 10 lbs. this past April,  I ended up gaining 5 lbs. back over the summer.  We moved and it was somewhat stressful, and I was indulging in pastries and other goodies. After getting back on track recently, I was able to lose 7 lbs. in 6 weeks.

There have been so many changes for my family and I this year. I cannot talk about everything in one blog post; however, I will fill you in on the things that  I’ve learned.  I hope that some of these principles and life lessons will be an encouragement to you as well!

2015 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 33,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 12 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

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Staying Fit While Snowed In

My 2016 had a weird, but interesting start, but I am back on track with my fitness goals.  One of the reasons that I love my gym is that they give you “bucks” to spend just for being a member. I’ve used them for personal training sessions.  I think I will use the remaining bucks for a massage in the coming weeks.  My personal trainer recommended her massage therapist to me.

My workouts have been consistent, and I’m starting to see some changes in my weight.  I lost 2 pounds this past week. I had to revamp my eating habits since I wasn’t seeing a physical change. I’m eating smaller portions for each meal.

With more than 1 foot of snow hitting the DC Metro area, everything is pretty much shut down.  I will have to be creative with my at-home workouts.  Most likely, I will do crunches and some push ups. There was a time that I could barely do one push up.  My mid-section still needs toning.  If I can trim my waistline and burn away my “muffin top”, that will help my health tremendously.  I took a hour-long cycling class one morning a couple of weeks ago. I took one a few years ago; this one was a lot harder. Surprisingly, the next day, my muscles weren’t sore.

To recap,  I’ll see my doctor in March, so I need to stay focused so he can see the positive changes. My blood pressure readings have been excellent. My reading today was 119/74.  For information purposes, a reading below 120/80 is optimal.  Always ask your doctor if you are unsure.  My cholesterol levels were normal on my last doctor visit in September.  The goal is for the pre-diabetes to reverse.  In the meantime, I will do my best to stay warm and catch up on my writing and sleep. Maybe even read a good book!


And the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award Goes to…

Thank you, Julieann Dove, for nominating me for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award.

Here are the rules:

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you, linking back to their site.
2. Put the award logo on your blog.
3. Answer the ten questions sent to you.
4. Make up ten new questions for your nominees to answer.
5. Nominate ten blogs.

Here are my 10 questions and answers:

  1. What would be your perfect day off from all responsibilities?

I would say sleeping in as late as I want, getting a workout in, maybe even working on my racquetball techniques, going to Starbucks for a Grande Cold Brew coffee with cream and sugar, an hour-long massage, and relaxing with a good book.  That would be my perfect day off.

2. How many books do you read in a year?

I read at least 12 books in a year.

3. If you could have dinner with a celebrity, who would it be and why?

I’m not sure.  The more I find out about them, the less appealing they are to me.

4. If you could start over in life would you pick another type of profession? Why?

I would have pursued writing first instead of science, although I love science, but perhaps my writing could have had an earlier impact.

5. What makes a book satisfying to you?

A satisfying book to me is one that I can’t put down, usually a love story or something spiritual.

6. Do you love or hate to cook? What is your specialty or epic fail?

Cooking has never been a love of mine.  I don’t hate it; I never learned or paid enough attention to be a good cook.  I was always taught to get a college education and a great career so I can take care of myself.  Don’t cook if you don’t have to. I can cook a few dishes well, like squash soup and sautéed squash and potatoes, and I used to bake often.  I’ve had more epic disasters in the kitchen than I care to name.  My husband always wishes that I would cook, but I just don’t have time. He’s an excellent cook.  It wasn’t that I didn’t try. I have my good points, but cooking is not one of them.

7. If you could change one think about your appearance, what would it be? Why?

It would definitely be my muffin top.  We did a lot of traveling this summer. I tend to gain weight in my hips, thighs, and mid-section. If the muffin top disappeared, my clothes would fit better, I would be more confident, and my health issues (i.e. diabetic risk factors, cholesterol, blood pressure) would be reduced if not eliminated.  I’m working to reach that goal.  I will keep you posted.

8. If you saw your co-worker’s/friend’s spouse cheating, would you tell?

Yes, I would tell them in a tactful way.  They may not believe me, but truth will come out eventually.

9. Where in the world would you like to visit that you haven’t already?

It would be somewhere in Italy, for sure.

10.  What is the one quality you find most attractive in a mate?

It’s definitely a sense of humor.  I love to laugh.

My 10 questions:

  1. What is your biggest passion?
  2. Do you consider yourself to be a spiritual person?  Why or why not?
  3. What are your top 3 favorite movies of all time?
  4. If you had to pick 1 thing that you could live without, what would it be?
  5. Would you prefer a mate with an average body and a handsome face, or a mate with an average face and a hot body?
  6. Do you exercise regularly?  If yes, what is your favorite way to work out?
  7. What is your biggest fear? Why?
  8. What has been your biggest accomplishment?
  9. Who do you admire the most and why?
  10. What is your favorite childhood memory?

My 10 nominations:

  1. The Lifestyle of Jeannie
  2. Julieann Dove
  3. Be a Positive Light
  4. Angela Tague
  5. Samantha
  6. Pens and Journals
  7. Mom meets Blog
  8. Forever Healthy!
  9. Lidiya K.
  10. Ria Robinson

5 Reasons That I Appreciate Guest Bloggers

IMG_0861When I first started my blog, I would often look for opportunities to guest blog or have some selected guests post articles on my blog. I frequented Blogger Linkup to find them. It was a great resource, and the start to something positive. I am so grateful to my guest bloggers. Some of them have posted multiple articles. Others have read my blog on their own and wanted to contribute. I am appreciative of them for these reasons:

  1. I have contributors as well as readers. I always say that if at least one person reads my blog and learns some helpful information, that makes me happy. I actually have more visitors and readers from outside of the United States! That means I’m reaching readers globally.
  2. Being too busy or too distracted to write. Being a mom, wife, and full-time employee, there are times that I have to put writing on hold. Guest posts “fill in the gaps” and keep readers interested.
  3. Establishing relationships. I have met some awesome bloggers that I have learned a great deal from by reading their posts. As I mentioned, some of them have contributed multiple articles.
  4. Variety.  My blog mainly discusses parenting, health, and relationships, but there are also posts that discuss fashion, the occult, and religion.
  5. A different prospective.   Sometimes, it’s refreshing to get different outlooks on life from young and upcoming writers as well as those that are seasoned.

I look forward to bringing more personal posts in addition to more guest posts to Have Faith and Live Well. Happy reading!

How to Develop Your Child’s Interest in Science

IMG_0891For many people, science was not their favorite subject in school. They didn’t like their teacher or it was just a hard subject to grasp. From a personal prospective, I had science teachers that I really liked, and I was able to excel in their classes. Even with the teachers that made it difficult, I was still able to excel. I was an Honor Roll student from elementary school to high school.

At that time, I didn’t know that I would become a Chemist. (Before I started blogging, I worked in pharmaceutical labs). My plan was either to be an accountant or go into the medical field. When I started graduate school, I knew that science was my chosen career path.

Do I want my son to follow in my footsteps? Sure, but he is only 4 years old. He shows a scientific side; he is interested in bugs and leaves. He is also fascinated by electronics and water going down the drain. In other words, he’s curious. You should support your child’s interest in science if they have one. In my last blog post, I wrote that it was a mistake to live out someone else’s dream, even if it pays well. See my blog post How to Have a Career Focus. As a parent, you don’t need to have an interest in science in order for you child to love it. There aren’t any other scientists in my family. If you see that your child has an interest in science, encourage it. Here are some ways to spark their interest:

  1. Allow your child to spend time outside with nature. It’s been a hard, long winter for many of us, so when the weather breaks, get out and enjoy nature. Pay attention to your child’s reactions. For instance, I mentioned that my son is fascinated with bugs and leaves, and I’m not going to discourage that. It doesn’t mean that he’ll become a scientist, but it may be a future interest for him.
  2. Encourage scientific reading. As a kid, I had many books about science. Books about insects, your digestive system, the 5 senses, and the like. Before smartphones existed, we went to the library to get books and study.   Your child can still go to the library and smell and feel a live book for free. However, I know that many of you may prefer to download all of your children’s books on an iPad or Kindle. There are apps like Off the Rails, Toca Nature, and Explorium-Space for Kids.
  3. Make science part of play. You can purchase a science lab set or other tools that allows your student to explore science hands-on safely.
  4. Have them talk with their teachers. If science is your child’s favorite subject in school, he can talk to his teacher about his interest.   They can definitely point them in the right direction.

4 Killer Ways to Look Fabulous Without Spending Too Much

Girls are known to be shopaholics. For some unknown reasons, women have this secret “buy me now or regret later” mantra when they go shopping. However, if you’re experiencing financial crisis, you must know how to create balance between looking fabulous and shelling out hard-earned cash.

When girls want to be presentable and beautiful all the time, they become more resourceful and eager to learn about how to earn more to compensate their needs. In this article, there will be some suggestions on how to look hot and fabulous despite the recession pang.

Read them below:

Clean out your cabinet every now and then.

It is important that you understand the value of basic clothing and the ways to get new clothes through your old ones. While most of the articles are telling you how to save money, this article will help you to find money.

Check out your cabinet and sell the ones that you are no longer using. The money you will get from here is often bigger than you would expect. But, make sure to know which pieces of clothes to be left out for your everyday needs. Keep your basic tees, racer backs, black blazers, and trousers because you can mix and match them with accessories.

Also, vintage clothing style is trendy nowadays among young women. Thus, your old clothes are still worth keeping.

Make a list before you spend money on shopping.

While women are born to shop impulsively on any given day, you must learn how to buy from the shopping list. It’s like a framework of a project that you need to follow strictly. List the things you need and stick with your allotted budget. But first, prioritize the items on your list and do some “crime of impulse” buying if there is money left from your budget. If there is none, you must remind yourself to stop for now.

Check the size of the item you’re about to buy.

It’s good to buy clothes that are a perfect fit, but make sure you can maintain your size, or else you will end up not using it the next time. It is recommended to buy larger clothes than those that fit perfect. It is easier to do some changes if the dress is too large, unlike the small ones.

Maximize your accessories.

Use trendy yet inexpensive accessories because it can totally change the way you look. Even the simplest clothing style become fabulous because of the right accessories that tag along them. You can check some fashion tips from celebrities when it comes to accessorizing your outfit.

It is not bad to dress up every day, as long as you know what to prioritize; you’ll look fab than ever. Remember to be resourceful these days and maintain a low-cost yet fabulous wardrobe.

About the blogger:

Helena Bradley is a passionate blogger of lifestyle, fitness and health, and career management. She is a big fan of home gym, for she’s too shy to attend a real gym. While she graduated with a Creative Writing degree, she tries to be an outdoorsy type of person. She juggles her time between traveling and working as a Copywriter.

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How to Have a Career Focus

imageAs a college-bound youth, or maybe even an undecided college student, finding a career may not always be easy. However, there are some things to consider before you choose.

  1. Passion. What are you passionate about? What do you enjoy doing the most? You passion is your fondness for something, like writing or music. You love it so much, that you would do it for free.
  2. Interest. What types of things interest you? Think about your favorite subjects in school. Also, you may have been involved in many extracurricular activities in and outside of school. There may have been a teacher or another adult that you may admire. You can talk to them about their career if it’s something that is of interest to you.
  3. Talent. All of us have at least one talent; something that we do well with a natural ability. It may be singing, dancing, playing an instrument, or painting.
  4. Don’t live out somebody’s else’s dreams. Your parents may want you to become a doctor or a lawyer because of the prestige and high salary that comes with it. This may sound fabulous, but if it’s not what you want to do, you are going to be miserable. You can be rich and still be unhappy.
  5. Be realistic. For some careers, like politics, you have to compromise your morals and values in order to wsucceed. This is what the world says; money, fame, and power are the things to strive for. But what does God say? Whatever career you choose, do it with integrity. There’s nothing wrong with being successful, just don’t sell your soul for it.