Fighting with Jealousy

Scientists are trying to assure us that love is the result of action of a chemical force viewed in our organism. Moreover, they decided to examine the most contradictory feeling caused by passion – jealousy. It turned out that this feeling is directly related to hormones, and a jealous person feels jealous because he/she enjoys revenge! That’s a rather unexpected conclusion, isn’t it?

Italian scientists came to the conclusion that the reasons for the inadequate behavior of the jealous person are hidden in disorders of brain activity that lead to tragic consequences. Having conducted a series of experiments, the researchers proved that it is due to an outbreak of the jealousy hormone, dopamine. This hormone is responsible for the sense of satisfaction! As we can see, when a person is jealous, he/she is suffering internally, but at the same time the feeling of happiness occurs! It actually explains the desire to check a partner’s cell phone, read e-mails, or even have him/her shadowed.

In most cases, jealousy is experienced by shy and suspicious people, those who have suffered serious insults and humiliations in childhood. However, there are numerous examples when the successful and wealthy suffer from this damaging feeling; these people do not complain about lack of self-confidence.

Jealousy is a disease!

Scientists have come to the conclusion that jealousy is a disease. It’s advised to treat it at the early stage. According to scientists, there are five kinds of jealousy – depressive, paranoid, manic, exaggerated, and caused by the fear of divorce. In general, the so-called Othello syndrome is considered to be quite a natural feeling. But a biochemical imbalance in the body, generated by jealousy, can turn this feeling into a dangerous obsession. It is therefore essential to define it at an early stage and start the treatment.

How shall we fight?

The biggest mistake is to think that the latest findings of scientists give you an excuse and a possibility to say that jealousy is caused by hormones and you are not guilty!  If we are proud that we are given the name of Homo Sapiens, we must at least learn to control our emotions. So what should you do to protect yourself and a beloved person from one of the most dangerous and destructive feelings?

1. Get rid of complexes. Low self-esteem provokes thoughts that the partner is not satisfied with your appearance, character or habits. Ban yourself to use such phrases as “I’m fat”,  “I am not smart enough”, “I am not so beautiful”, etc. Believe in the fact that you are better than others and your partner will definitely believe in that.

2. Trust your partner. Stop exhausting yourself with thoughts that at this very moment, while you are waiting for your beloved person, he or she is having fun with someone else. Think at least that thoughts tend to come true, and decide if you really want your fantasy to become a reality.

3. Spend more time together. This will save you from a reason to be jealous.

4. Do not stop taking care of your appearance and health. Make sure that you look good even being at home. This will help you to gain self-confidence.

5. Do not be silent. Explain to your partner what situations bring you to jealousy. Let the partner know how you really feel. If you find the right words and the right manner of speaking, you can be sure that in the future your partner will avoid situations that stir up discontent.

6. Get busy. Obviously, really busy people simply don’t have time to check e-mails and messages, or think about where their beloved people are spending time. Try to focus on a very interesting activity; find a hobby which will demand all your attention and distract you from negative and suspicious thoughts.

7. Eat chocolate, blueberries and almonds. These products help to cope with stress and depression. If you feel that jealousy begins to conquer your mind, just eat chocolate or a handful of nuts. The emotional storm will blow itself.

8. Professional help. If all of the above mentioned methods do not help, and you value the relationships with this person, it’s time to ask for professional help. There is nothing shameful if a psychotherapist helps you to cope with jealousy. Treat jealousy as a disease and you’re looking for the doctor, just as if you suffered from a toothache.

About the author: The essay is written by Melisa Marzett. Melisa writes on such topics as healthy lifestyle, psychology and health care. Find more information about Melisa at This young writer also writes for

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